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Traveling By Foot: Reflections

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Conozco is a Spanish term for knowing. Conozco Pablo literally means "I know Pablo." Through my blogposts, one will understand my personal and social perspective.
In the past two years of blogging, I have already written exactly 200 posts by now. There are several themes revolving around life, emotions, relationships, social issues and travel. Those topics maybe irrelevant from each other, but all articles are deeply associated with my experiences and from where I come from. Not long ago, I was struggling for a decent future and even with supporting my family's needs. I strongly believed that through doing good in school, I would be successful in life through hardwork and determination. From that dream I had and to where I stand now, I could say the distance I traveled was quite long enough. It took a lot of effort, luck and guts, but I am happy on what I have become - imperfect, changing for the better but satisfied.
If I could make an analogy of my life in the last de…

When Life S*cks

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Sometimes, there are times when we feel that life seems to be too challenging that we need time to just sit down and observe how things would unfold. Our coping skills seems overwhelmed even though we have experienced similar before. Our time and resources are not sufficient even to deal with the problem at hand. Life sucks at times. However, the first step to deal with it is to identify when we can say life really sucks. Here I will identify five situations that fits this description.

Your social core is weakened.
Social core includes one's family, friends and culture defining one's identity. Social network could change but some still manage to maintain and protect their identity. They remain as they were and continue to be as such. However, there are circumstances that threatened the stability and predictability of our identity. When our environment changes, our identity is threatened. Our values do not necessarily change overnight, but in time, it will be affected by our en…

When the Society is Becoming Worse

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Life is tough everybody seems to agree about that. However, nowadays many are presented with challenges that make their lives even tougher. Specifically, the society seems not helping enough to alleviate the sufferings of the few. People are becoming more self-centered, and as such people do not care for each other enough. Here, I will attempt to enumerate situations that make the our society worse.

1. When children take the responsibilities of adults.
Children should be allowed to act and enjoy as children. In this way, they would understand that the world has a sort of order and hierarchy. This is not to say in absolute terms that authority is always acceptable. However, children should have a concept of order. Let them see that by exempting them from taking the major responsibilities of adults. Let them learn the concept of responsibilities and consequences, but give them the leeway to make mistakes without major repercussions in their lives. Should they rebel or disagree with the …

40 Things Everyone Should Know Before 30

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At the time of this writing, I am already 32 years old. I can say there are a lot of expectations for me to do and accomplish at my age, given the standards from my Filipino background and current influences from the country I live right now. I think it is a privilege to see the world through these two perspectives. Thus, I will attempt to summarize the forty things everyone should know before turning 30.

1. Your body is a reflection of who you are. Take care of it. 🚴‍♂️ You also decide what to do with it. 
2. Sleep is as important as food. But once you feel rested, do as much you can. You can not just sleep as much as you can.
3. The things we own affect how others treat us. Keep those people who treat you well when you had less in life.
4. You can feel down, but somehow choose few people to express your feelings.
5. Do not decide when you are too happy, sad or angry. At this time, you are blind and partial. Reflect and learn to reflect everyday.
6. Learn to enjoy but most importan…

3 Types of People Not Worth Your Time

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In our lives, we meet a variety of people. Some of them would be willing to stay in our lives for long. Some of them we choose to keep regardless how they treat us. It is  two-way process that aids in building good relationships that each of us treasure. However, there are some people who come to our life and gives us the lessons we bring with us in the future. These lessons are however based on experience of dealing people who seems just wasting our time or giving us anything but negativity in our lives. Here, I will enumerate the three types of people who are not worth our time.

People who manipulate others
Sometimes we believe people select who they manipulate to gain control. It is to say one could manipulate others, but could opt not to manipulate you. Here is the truth. Once they have manipulated one, it is easier from them to do it again with anyone, including you. No exceptions. These individuals lack empathy. However, understand why they choose to manipulate another. Should t…

Unfit Puzzle of Life

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There has been a lot of analogies to describe what life is. Most common includes roller coaster, road, a dance, mountain or an adventure. These comparisons are indeed good way to understand what life really is. However, sometimes we forget that life is actually not just about "our" journey but how we interact with the people around us. We are spaces with specific forms in which people around us would conform. Some would fit, sometimes partially and most they simply don't. Here, I would utilize a puzzle to give light another perspective of life, more specifically an "unfit" puzzle.

People do not necessarily "fit" with each other.
All of us have imperfections. We are not fabricated according to well-thought plan. This is not to deviate from an idea that there exists an Omnipotent God. But I would rather discuss it away from that light. We are not the same. We can not say parts of us suit perfectly with anyone. The fact is the "most suitable and app…

The Decade: Working, Knowing, Traveling, Home and Trust

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2010s has been a special decade for me personally. It has made me realize who I am and the virtues that are important for me. These virtues have influenced how I decide on things, how I solve problems and how I socialize with people around me. This decade is the beginning of my adult life. How unique this decade has been will be the interest of this blogpost, which will be divided into five sections.
Working
This decade was about me working like there was no tomorrow. There were there 3 working period in this decade:
1. Working to be recognized
To be recognized is the ultimate goal of the early phase of this decade. I was struggling to be relevant at all times. That was exhausting because I easily learned I actually did not need to do that. I knew I had something to offer to others. I can do the work I am given, and I do not need recognition just to convince myself I did a good job.
2. Working to survive
Survival was the goal after I moved to Norway. It was the most challenging for me. I w…

10 Sociocultural Differences Between Norway and the Philippines

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Soon, I would mark my sixth year of living in Norway. It is difficult to sum up the past six years in few words. A lot of things I have experienced, and many people I have encountered. At least, I could say I have learned a lot during this period. However, what makes it more challenging for me as an immigrant in Norway is the contrast in cultures and social norms between my home country, the Philippines and Norway. Both countries were ranked high in different survey of happiness, depending on how happiness is defined on these surveys. And this concept of happiness is reflected in the norms in both countries. In this blogpost, I would enumerate ten of these cultural differences.
1.Love for nature
I could say that both Philippines and Norway have been blessed with beautiful landscapes. Philippines is known for its beaches, while Norway has fjords giving way to beautiful unique sceneries not found in other countries. However, there is a big difference between how nature is used. The Philip…

When You Lose Someone

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Some days in our lives are different from the usual. One day you meet one person in your life you would cherish for a period of time. Another day would be the time everything you gave was reciprocated. Then the day came when things started to change negatively. Then it became worse the next day, then the trend continued for several days and perhaps months. But there were still days, you still hope a positive change could happen. Then positive changes came once, but you lost thrice. You became sad but the downfall persisted. And lastly, today you realize you just have to give up. You finally lost someone by giving up.
But hey you know what is interesting when you already reached the lowest point? It is actually not the worst you had experienced. This article is all about trying to console those who have experience losing someone and eventually giving up all the hopes you had.
You actually hurt most in the beginning and in the midst of it.
You remember the first time you realize somethi…

Det kan du lure på

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Når ting forandrer seg vet man ikke
Om enten hva betyr noe eller man skal like
Ambivalens kan være uro innen hjerte
Det føles noe er galt, verre enn smerte
Skal man gå videre eller ta et skritt tilbake?
Skal satse på noe mer eller raser alt ned sakte
Man har noe magefølelse eller mistanker
Usikker om ord og handlinger virkelig stemmer
Der starter man å tenke hva er det som usant
Unødvendige tanker, bortkastet tid, ikke sant?
Ironisk for man er nygjerrig men ingen lyst for
Å lette etter for svar for hva skjer også hvorfor
Av og til er det bra men plutselig snur det da
Har man gjort noe ikke nok? Hvorfor? Hva?
Tenk når én kan gi alt er det dumt å gjøre slik
Da blir det på en måte et slags alvorlig svik
Vent bare for den tiden det er du som lurer på
Hva har blitt gjort erfarer du deg det likt også Hvorfor ting skjedde, ingen svar, bare stille
Alt blir uklare, tåkete og rett og slett ille
Vi lever nå, og er det viktigst å bli ivaretatt nok
Synlig på handlinger og avgjørelser man tok
Gjør…

No obligation to answer

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Social media has changed the lives of people significantly. Individuals share information about them and the things they are experiencing day-to-day. There seems to be a common knowledge about certain people based on what a person is sharing on social media. Everything in social media revolves around the image each person is portraying in the public. There seems to be a symbiotic relationship among digital peers to willingly expose some details of themselves even to the critical strangers.
However, there is a new phenomenon occurring of the emergence of "little celebrities", who in one way or another are indebted to their social media followers, obliging them in a way to share more information about themselves even though it may not be necessary. The problem is that people no longer ask each other about what is happening, rather people in isolation are by rule obliged to tell something even no one is asking. Has social media made the obligation to answer even there is no qu…