Showing posts from April, 2017

Reinvigorating Fortitude

People seldom face adversities in life that either challenges the way they cope with difficulties, or worse presents sufficient stress to a person's existence and resilience. Situations are varied, but the person's ability to endure these situations is crucial in the way one copes in the end. There is a term fortitude that simply denotes one's mental toughness or courage in the midst of pain and adversity. This is the greatest factor that aids one to learn from the situation, and be better prepared in case a similar serious, challenging situation confronts the individual again in the future. Fortitude has three elements: will, courage and endurance. Will is the intention to stay on track, not until the desired end-result is achieved. On the other hand, courage is the acceptance that pain, adversities and temptation are part of the process. Accepting them, rather than ignoring them is the key to solving a problem, or enduring a negative experience. Lastly, endurance is the

The Need of Personal Space and Time

Being Asian, the concept of personal time and space is always intertwined with the collective family perspective. One is having time with himself or herself by being with his or her closest significant others. The concept of "me time" is associated with deliberate pampering of oneself, rest or entertainment in an usual Asian point of view, but this is quite opposite of what the Europeans think of the same phenomenon. It is a state of temporarily being detached from the society, for one to literally be with himself or himself. It is a state of being alone, not necessarily being lonely or allowing another to pamper for him or her. It is plainly doing something alone, not thinking of anything outside it. The difference between this two perspectives of personal time has always perplexed me on what suits well. The calmness of the laid-back European style is grounded on the basic principle of individualism, while the Asian way differs on the same concept by allowing others to do s

Expectations: Key to Understanding Others

Do really first impression last? Many would disagree would this because upon meeting another for the first time, everything we know seems to be superficial, and the more we spend time with certain people, we get to know them better, making first impression either incorrect or simply inaccurate. However, this blogpost will not focus on these impressions, rather on our expectations which could be developed since the first meeting or the succeeding ones. This is actually for me very crucial how we understand based on them. The popular definition of expectation has three parts: (1) it is a strong belief, (2) of something will happen, or (3) be the case. So from the definition, it is clear that expectations revolves around events or situations, not individuals. However, this events maybe the result of action of humans that aid in creating the belief, or further strengthening the expectation. So what can we understand by this. Expectation is a mere supposition. If there is a pattern, then

Happiness is Like a Glass of Water

The constant struggle of finding and experiencing happiness is always present. Many people try different ways to achieve a state of satisfaction and contentment that people seem to observe from others than being innately within themselves. This makes happiness seem a phenomenon of the third person than being owned. The reason perhaps why we think this way is that we see happiness more than how we should see a plane glass of water. This blogpost will focus on this. When you see a glass of water what would you think? Do you think of the glass that contains the water? Do you seem to make expectations on what the water should be before you drink it, cold or warm or perhaps sparkling? Do you think of water only when you are thirsty or not? These are the guide questions, this blogpost will revolve around to make an analogy between happiness and a glass of water. The Glass What shows on the outside is not necessarily what is inside. The glass sometimes influence our thirst. We human beings

Balance Between Hope and Reality

There are certainly things that we anticipate to come into reality. Expectations are quite high in  modern times. People want more, and dream more. There seems no limits to what we want but of course, we are limited to what we can do in reality. Aspirations are endless. Our needs are insatiable. However, reality presents differently from what we desired. Thus, there is a gap between our aspirations and the reality. Our hopes Hopes denote objectives, intentions and dreams. We all have purpose in life. What determines this purpose is how we are influenced in our lives by the people who matters to us. Our experiences aid in shaping what we think is best for us and for our significant others. Those thoughts of what is best serve as our objectives in life. They become part of our hopes, which influence our intentions, which are primarily expressed through our words and actions towards others in the social space. Some maybe perceived to be excessively ambitious, because they are self-drive