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Being Aloof and the Cues

Through my existence, I have interacted with diverse individuals with varying personalities and even varying cultural backgrounds. I have come to realize that effective communication goes beyond the words we speak. It also entails nonverbal cues such as eye contact, touch, distance, and time. This will be the focus of this blogpost. EYE CONTACT Ironically, as a nurse, I often find myself preferring to be alone. I tend to talk less and avoid eye contact, which I have learned can be emotionally draining, especially when dealing with patients. However, maintaining eye contact is crucial when communicating with patients to show empathy and understanding. Although I try to protect myself by talking carefully and avoiding eye contact, I remain vulnerable because I tend to talk too much. This is my weakness. Eye contact is a crucial aspect of nonverbal communication. It is the act of looking directly into someone's eyes while speaking or listening to them. Eye contact can have

No One is Perfect

Today, I am going to talk about an important lesson that I've learned over the course of my life. It's a lesson that I believe is crucial for all of us, especially those of you who are just starting out on your life journey. The lesson is this: no one is perfect. This is the focus of this blogpost. It's a simple truth, but one that we often forget in our pursuit of success and perfection. This is because we live in a world that values perfection and often judges us harshly when we fall short of that ideal. But the reality is that none of us are perfect, and we shouldn't expect ourselves or others to be. Perfectionism is often seen as a positive trait, associated with high standards and achieving excellence. However, like many traits, perfectionism also has its drawbacks. One of the main advantages of perfectionism is that it can drive individuals to do their best and strive for excellence in all areas of their lives. This can result in a strong work ethic, a

Two Wrongs Do Not Make A Right?

Dear friend, I know that you've been making some mistakes lately, and I want to talk to you about something that I think is really important: the idea that two wrongs don't make a right. The saying "two wrongs don't make a right" has been around for a very long time, and it still holds true today. This is something I would like to talk to you about here. This expression basically means that it's not okay to respond to a wrong with another wrong. For example, when someone wrongs us, it's natural to want to seek revenge. But seeking revenge only leads to more harm and doesn't solve anything. It's better to focus on finding a peaceful solution to the conflict. Another example is when we have arguments or disagreements with others. In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say hurtful things or engage in disrespectful behavior. But doing so only makes things worse and can harm relationships.  As humans, there are instances when we feel th

Caution about Caring for Each Other

I want to caution you about the concept of caring. While it is a fundamental aspect of any healthy relationship, caring can also have its drawbacks. It is important to consider how we express care and whether our actions are truly beneficial to the person we care about. This is the focus of this blogpost. Undoubtedly, the act of caring for others, particularly in intricate relationships such as those amongst friends, can be a daunting task. Caring is undeniably a crucial and affirmative aspect of any friendship, but it can also pose a considerable number of challenges. This is quite natural as the friendships evolves through time - it becomes more complicated as it seems. One of the main challenges of caring for friends is navigating the different needs and preferences of each person. People have different communication styles, emotional needs, and ways of dealing with challenges, which can sometimes clash with the needs of others. It can be difficult to know how to best su

The Health Care Ticking Bomb

As a health care worker for almost fifteen years, I have dealt with all kinds of people, patients, and colleagues from different cultural backgrounds. I have communicated with them in at least four different languages, and let me tell you, it has been a unique experience. I have been both in the academe and in clinical settings, dealing with both acute and non-acute patients. It has been a journey, but one thing I never thought I would struggle with the most is dealing with the ups and downs of daily patient interactions. Now, let me tell you something. Patient interactions require a lot from us, health care practitioners. It's not just about having knowledge and skills; we also need the right attitude. And let me tell you, attitude is personal and natural. You can't just learn it. I used to think I had the sufficient attitude, but I was wrong! Every time I interacted with my patients, a little part of me was either lost, numbed, or even confused. It was irritating

Gut Feeling Tells Me Something

  Recently, I have been reflecting deeply on past interactions, and it has become clear to me that my gut instinct was accurate. Throughout my life, I have often relied on my intuition, but my rational mind offered another choice. However, time and again, my gut feeling has proved my perception wrong and guided me towards making wise choices. Whenever I suddenly make drastic changes, it is because my gut feeling kicked in. I start to see things that others may neglect, or I may have repeatedly ignored previously. At times, I tend to tolerate certain situations, but I instantenously realize that I need to follow what my instinct tells me. Luckily, I am patient enough to confirm that hunch, and when I do, I close my eyes and walk away, knowing that I do not need to waste my future on a senseless situation. Intuition, commonly known as gut feeling, is the innate sense or sensation that steers us to make decisions without any factual basis or logical explanation. While some ind