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Traveling By Foot: Reflections

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Conozco is a Spanish term for knowing. Conozco Pablo literally means "I know Pablo." Through my blogposts, one will understand my personal and social perspective.
In the past two years of blogging, I have already written exactly 200 posts by now. There are several themes revolving around life, emotions, relationships, social issues and travel. Those topics maybe irrelevant from each other, but all articles are deeply associated with my experiences and from where I come from. Not long ago, I was struggling for a decent future and even with supporting my family's needs. I strongly believed that through doing good in school, I would be successful in life through hardwork and determination. From that dream I had and to where I stand now, I could say the distance I traveled was quite long enough. It took a lot of effort, luck and guts, but I am happy on what I have become - imperfect, changing for the better but satisfied.
If I could make an analogy of my life in the last de…

The Twelfth Chapter: New Resilient Version

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Today, July 31, 2020 I celebrate my 12000th day. Last November 5, 2017, I  wrote a blogpost marking the end of my 11,000 days. I mark this day, because I believe we perhaps can not distinguish the changes on ourselves within a year but reflecting over the last 1,000 days will give us a different perspective in life based on what we have learned and experienced.The Tabula rasaI started the period of my life like a tabula rasa - a clean state of mind. I have preconceived ideas and judgments from my previous experiences, but my new experiences forced me to forget the previous learned ones, or else I would not achieve what I want. It feels like I had to undo everything I believed on. (Click here for the first 10,000 days) What I have During the span of almost three years, I asked myself what I have. This question is something I took for granted before. I felt it is something obvious, not needing to reflect upon. However, this question is essential. Now, I have work, social network, time, an…

Right Time for Everything?

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When is the right time for everything? Is it today, in the near future or perhaps few months or years from now? This is a perplexing question anyone is confronted. But when can we really say it is the right time? This is the main theme of this blogpost.
When you have the courage
Courage is a feeling and act of valor inspite of uncertainty and danger. This is I believe the only kind of feeling we need to act. We do not need to feel happy, contented or secured, before we act. When we wait to feel better first before we act, then better do nothing at all. That will certainly take time. Feelings vary from time to time. But courage often happen instantaneously. Do something, rather than waiting for the right feeling. The right time is when you feel brave enough. Just be courageous. After all, if you commit mistakes, you can still rectify them and do better perhaps in another time. 
When you have reason
Many of us will never take the risk of acting on something before all the necessary informat…

Love Yourself in 10 steps

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Not long ago I had a major downturn in my life. I kept it a secret to the most important people in life. I was quite lost. I felt that I was begging for attention, time, and affection from other people. I was expecting people to show some empathy and take responsibility of making me feel well. Think about that. The consequences of that was domino of further self-destruction strategies and dysfunctional coping skills that superficially covered the intensity of how my problems impacted my life, not never really addressed the main problem – I was not loving myself as I should. Looking back, I could somehow reflect on the stages I went through to love myself. And, this is the focus of this blogpost
1. Make mistakes
Do not be afraid to make mistakes. This is the most dangerous point, when one aspiring change is on a trial-and-error mode. Because the consequence could be worse. People go further downward, and some people self-destruct and lose identity in the process. I did this. Actually, I …

To You Whose Birthday is Today

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We all mark our birthdays each year. Majority observe it to a certain degree, some don’t. Some people see to it that other people would be aware that it is their birthday. Some would prefer to be quiet about it for a lot of personal reasons. Nevertheless, the best part of birthdays is, the fact, that someone remembers you. That itself is a sufficient reason to celebrate. For you whose birthday is today, this blogpost is for you. 😘

Ofcourse, I remember.

Yes, I have not forgotten your birthday. To be honest, your name is one of the few whose birthday is on my personal calendar. I do not put everyone there, ofcourse. There is not enough space I guess. 😋 However, do you recall the first time we met? 😉 Who would thought we would get to know each other better months following that. Quiet unexpected, we started talking 🙂, and then we got to be more open about who we really are. Well, there is a lot more to share and experience. No one really knows everything yet. It is impossible to be acq…

We Are All Foreigners (Poem) #alllivesmatter

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Unfortunately, even at this day and age, discrimination exists among groups of people varying in culture, religion, race or skin color. The Corona virus pandemic has in a way accentuated the inequality that exists among cultural groups. As a person of color and foreign background, I would like express my sympathy to those who are victims of racism and discrimination. As a way to express my support, I have a written a poem dedicated for this cause.
There is no such place as we call homeland.
We, human beings are all foreigners in any land
No one can say this place belongs to me.
Or, where one should flee from or should be.

Remember the land we live in, clearly is not ours
The same land over the seas and under the stars.
All of us, from this place we shall bid goodbye.
We live here and depart this place when we die.

We are all alike for being recipients of the gift of life.
Discussing who’s better is pointless, often ending in strife.
Nothing we can keep forever, not even a single thing…

What Corona Virus Pandemic Has Taught Us

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It has been almost two months after the lockdowns have started in relation to the Corona virus pandemic. As of now, the pandemic has not been resolved yet, since there are no vaccines available to combat the virus. However, in Oslo, Norway where I live, as of the moment, there are significant positive changes brought about by the strict measures recommended by the Norwegian health authorities. The measures may not be perfectly implemented, but what is important is as how our lives have been affected by it. This blogpost will tackle on this matter.
Appreciating the essentials.
There is a contrast between needs and wants. First and foremost, I realized as a nurse, I have an essential work for the society. I ofcourse knew about this from the start, but the Corona virus pandemic has made me realized that those profession that remained in time are the most that matters. When we are hungry and thirsty, we need to get food and water. When we get sick, we need someone who could take care of us.…

The Good and Bad of High Expectations

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Every individual has expectations from time to time. People use it as a barometer to guide decision-making, for example, to either continue moving away or pushing for change. This is however every personal as it varies from one person to another. Moreover, society influences how these expectations are set. Some believe setting the bar high, makes it difficult for one to achieve satisfaction and happiness. Is this true? These will elaborated and reflected upon in this blogpost.
High Expectations means higher standards
As a tool for decision-making, individial expectations reflect one's standards. The do's and the don'ts for a certain individual. It is relative but society could somehow distinguish should expectations are high enough or low. However, most often expectations are bounded with the person itself. The question from the society would be, a poor beggar should have learned to lower his or her expectations. A beggar can not be just the poor. He or she can be either t…

World Takes a Pause

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As of this writing, the Corona virus is affecting the lives of billions of people in the world. Perhaps, some countries are more affected than others. Europe is now the epicenter of the pandemy, but USA currently is having the most number of new cases. Because cities are closed, and restrictions have been made to reduce human interactions and hamper the spread of the disease. Suddenly, the world is making a pause.

Do we get something good out of this? We have to reflect on this situation, so we become better individuals when the pandemy begins to subside. Here are the things we all could have realized in the last few days.
We realize what we truly need.
Food, water, shelter and protection. Those are what all individual needs. Higher needs include recognition, belongingness and confidence. These higher needs currently seem less relevant when survival is one's utmost concern. These needs are to be met, but no one could require someone to meet them in a way one wants it or when one n…

Let go of these three

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Humans have tendencies to be possessive and assert their ownership on things and people they have. Perhaps, this is the reason why in all languages possessive pronouns exist: mine, yours, hers, his or theirs. There are things we keep and want to keep for ourselves. This may not be a problem unless the circumstances dictate that it is the perfect time to let go, and cease to hold unto these things. Here I would list three things everyone should let go no matter what it takes.

A toxic non-serving relationship
Relationships make or break us. Actually, the effect of relationships in our lives depends on us as well. We let relationships make or break us. Some relationships make us better indidivuals by supplementing us with harmony and happiness in our lives. At times, relationships end but still it gives us the benefits of the learning the end comes with. However, there are relationships that are so-called toxic and non-serving. It does not yield any new learnings, instead it produces mor…

When Life S*cks

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Sometimes, there are times when we feel that life seems to be too challenging that we need time to just sit down and observe how things would unfold. Our coping skills seems overwhelmed even though we have experienced similar before. Our time and resources are not sufficient even to deal with the problem at hand. Life sucks at times. However, the first step to deal with it is to identify when we can say life really sucks. Here I will identify five situations that fits this description.

Your social core is weakened.
Social core includes one's family, friends and culture defining one's identity. Social network could change but some still manage to maintain and protect their identity. They remain as they were and continue to be as such. However, there are circumstances that threatened the stability and predictability of our identity. When our environment changes, our identity is threatened. Our values do not necessarily change overnight, but in time, it will be affected by our en…