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Traveling By Foot: Reflections

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Conozco is a Spanish term for knowing. Conozco Pablo literally means "I know Pablo." Through my blogposts, one will understand my personal and social perspective.
In the past two years of blogging, I have already written exactly 200 posts by now. There are several themes revolving around life, emotions, relationships, social issues and travel. Those topics maybe irrelevant from each other, but all articles are deeply associated with my experiences and from where I come from. Not long ago, I was struggling for a decent future and even with supporting my family's needs. I strongly believed that through doing good in school, I would be successful in life through hardwork and determination. From that dream I had and to where I stand now, I could say the distance I traveled was quite long enough. It took a lot of effort, luck and guts, but I am happy on what I have become - imperfect, changing for the better but satisfied.
If I could make an analogy of my life in the last de…

The Good and Bad of High Expectations

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Every individual has expectations from time to time. People use it as a barometer to guide decision-making, for example, to either continue moving away or pushing for change. This is however every personal as it varies from one person to another. Moreover, society influences how these expectations are set. Some believe setting the bar high, makes it difficult for one to achieve satisfaction and happiness. Is this true? These will elaborated and reflected upon in this blogpost.
High Expectations means higher standards
As a tool for decision-making, individial expectations reflect one's standards. The do's and the don'ts for a certain individual. It is relative but society could somehow distinguish should expectations are high enough or low. However, most often expectations are bounded with the person itself. The question from the society would be, a poor beggar should have learned to lower his or her expectations. A beggar can not be just the poor. He or she can be either t…

World Takes a Pause

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As of this writing, the Corona virus is affecting the lives of billions of people in the world. Perhaps, some countries are more affected than others. Europe is now the epicenter of the pandemy, but USA currently is having the most number of new cases. Because cities are closed, and restrictions have been made to reduce human interactions and hamper the spread of the disease. Suddenly, the world is making a pause.

Do we get something good out of this? We have to reflect on this situation, so we become better individuals when the pandemy begins to subside. Here are the things we all could have realized in the last few days.
We realize what we truly need.
Food, water, shelter and protection. Those are what all individual needs. Higher needs include recognition, belongingness and confidence. These higher needs currently seem less relevant when survival is one's utmost concern. These needs are to be met, but no one could require someone to meet them in a way one wants it or when one n…

Let go of these three

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Humans have tendencies to be possessive and assert their ownership on things and people they have. Perhaps, this is the reason why in all languages possessive pronouns exist: mine, yours, hers, his or theirs. There are things we keep and want to keep for ourselves. This may not be a problem unless the circumstances dictate that it is the perfect time to let go, and cease to hold unto these things. Here I would list three things everyone should let go no matter what it takes.

A toxic non-serving relationship
Relationships make or break us. Actually, the effect of relationships in our lives depends on us as well. We let relationships make or break us. Some relationships make us better indidivuals by supplementing us with harmony and happiness in our lives. At times, relationships end but still it gives us the benefits of the learning the end comes with. However, there are relationships that are so-called toxic and non-serving. It does not yield any new learnings, instead it produces mor…

When Life S*cks

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Sometimes, there are times when we feel that life seems to be too challenging that we need time to just sit down and observe how things would unfold. Our coping skills seems overwhelmed even though we have experienced similar before. Our time and resources are not sufficient even to deal with the problem at hand. Life sucks at times. However, the first step to deal with it is to identify when we can say life really sucks. Here I will identify five situations that fits this description.

Your social core is weakened.
Social core includes one's family, friends and culture defining one's identity. Social network could change but some still manage to maintain and protect their identity. They remain as they were and continue to be as such. However, there are circumstances that threatened the stability and predictability of our identity. When our environment changes, our identity is threatened. Our values do not necessarily change overnight, but in time, it will be affected by our en…

When the Society is Becoming Worse

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Life is tough everybody seems to agree about that. However, nowadays many are presented with challenges that make their lives even tougher. Specifically, the society seems not helping enough to alleviate the sufferings of the few. People are becoming more self-centered, and as such people do not care for each other enough. Here, I will attempt to enumerate situations that make the our society worse.

1. When children take the responsibilities of adults.
Children should be allowed to act and enjoy as children. In this way, they would understand that the world has a sort of order and hierarchy. This is not to say in absolute terms that authority is always acceptable. However, children should have a concept of order. Let them see that by exempting them from taking the major responsibilities of adults. Let them learn the concept of responsibilities and consequences, but give them the leeway to make mistakes without major repercussions in their lives. Should they rebel or disagree with the …

40 Things Everyone Should Know Before 30

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At the time of this writing, I am already 32 years old. I can say there are a lot of expectations for me to do and accomplish at my age, given the standards from my Filipino background and current influences from the country I live right now. I think it is a privilege to see the world through these two perspectives. Thus, I will attempt to summarize the forty things everyone should know before turning 30.

1. Your body is a reflection of who you are. Take care of it. 🚴‍♂️ You also decide what to do with it. 
2. Sleep is as important as food. But once you feel rested, do as much you can. You can not just sleep as much as you can.
3. The things we own affect how others treat us. Keep those people who treat you well when you had less in life.
4. You can feel down, but somehow choose few people to express your feelings.
5. Do not decide when you are too happy, sad or angry. At this time, you are blind and partial. Reflect and learn to reflect everyday.
6. Learn to enjoy but most importan…

3 Types of People Not Worth Your Time

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In our lives, we meet a variety of people. Some of them would be willing to stay in our lives for long. Some of them we choose to keep regardless how they treat us. It is  two-way process that aids in building good relationships that each of us treasure. However, there are some people who come to our life and gives us the lessons we bring with us in the future. These lessons are however based on experience of dealing people who seems just wasting our time or giving us anything but negativity in our lives. Here, I will enumerate the three types of people who are not worth our time.

People who manipulate others
Sometimes we believe people select who they manipulate to gain control. It is to say one could manipulate others, but could opt not to manipulate you. Here is the truth. Once they have manipulated one, it is easier from them to do it again with anyone, including you. No exceptions. These individuals lack empathy. However, understand why they choose to manipulate another. Should t…

Unfit Puzzle of Life

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There has been a lot of analogies to describe what life is. Most common includes roller coaster, road, a dance, mountain or an adventure. These comparisons are indeed good way to understand what life really is. However, sometimes we forget that life is actually not just about "our" journey but how we interact with the people around us. We are spaces with specific forms in which people around us would conform. Some would fit, sometimes partially and most they simply don't. Here, I would utilize a puzzle to give light another perspective of life, more specifically an "unfit" puzzle.

People do not necessarily "fit" with each other.
All of us have imperfections. We are not fabricated according to well-thought plan. This is not to deviate from an idea that there exists an Omnipotent God. But I would rather discuss it away from that light. We are not the same. We can not say parts of us suit perfectly with anyone. The fact is the "most suitable and app…

The Decade: Working, Knowing, Traveling, Home and Trust

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2010s has been a special decade for me personally. It has made me realize who I am and the virtues that are important for me. These virtues have influenced how I decide on things, how I solve problems and how I socialize with people around me. This decade is the beginning of my adult life. How unique this decade has been will be the interest of this blogpost, which will be divided into five sections.
Working
This decade was about me working like there was no tomorrow. There were there 3 working period in this decade:
1. Working to be recognized
To be recognized is the ultimate goal of the early phase of this decade. I was struggling to be relevant at all times. That was exhausting because I easily learned I actually did not need to do that. I knew I had something to offer to others. I can do the work I am given, and I do not need recognition just to convince myself I did a good job.
2. Working to survive
Survival was the goal after I moved to Norway. It was the most challenging for me. I w…

10 Sociocultural Differences Between Norway and the Philippines

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Soon, I would mark my sixth year of living in Norway. It is difficult to sum up the past six years in few words. A lot of things I have experienced, and many people I have encountered. At least, I could say I have learned a lot during this period. However, what makes it more challenging for me as an immigrant in Norway is the contrast in cultures and social norms between my home country, the Philippines and Norway. Both countries were ranked high in different survey of happiness, depending on how happiness is defined on these surveys. And this concept of happiness is reflected in the norms in both countries. In this blogpost, I would enumerate ten of these cultural differences.
1.Love for nature
I could say that both Philippines and Norway have been blessed with beautiful landscapes. Philippines is known for its beaches, while Norway has fjords giving way to beautiful unique sceneries not found in other countries. However, there is a big difference between how nature is used. The Philip…