The Best Way to Escape
Have you ever felt you wanted to go away from a difficult situation? Or perhaps deal with a person who makes you feel awkward and uncomfortable that you just want to evade and prefer not to see the person? Everyone has experienced this perhaps. However, one could ask which way is the best way to escape. Here I will present three posible scenarios, one can choose.
1. Avoid the situation and talk no more about the person
This is the most common. People try to forget everything but it is difficult and in reality impossible. One can try to dump all associated memories and bad feelings in his or her unconciousness but everyone knows this way of escape just make delays in confronting a problem. This does not take away the fact that it is certain that the problem will arise some other time in the future.
For an instance, when one engages a quarrel with another and can no longer endure the tension, one perhaps try to hide himself or herself from the comfort zone, hoping things will be better after quite some time. This assumption is not true and will never be. There is no better option but to learn how to cope well with it.
2. Avoid the situation and continue to talk about the person
This way reflects what is called bitterness. When one attempts to find solution of a problem and decides to turn back and deliberately force oneself away from the situation, one must at least have courtesy and respect. Although escape indicates stress and discomfort to a person, this does not give one the right to talk back against the people or entities involved.
This is very common among people who lost opportunities or some personal benefits from a situation; such that before one decides to move on, one tries to create negative feedbacks, either real or not. This is done by most people, who needs to convince themselves that moving on is the great option for them by enumerating and reminding themselves how awful the involved person is. However, instead of coping, one nurtures more his or her weakness in dealing the main problem, thereby making this choice a bad one.
3. Stay with the situation and talk nothing about it
This is the best way to escape. Be in the situation withholding oneself to make any verbal engagement that could elicit complication to the situation. This means that the so-called escape becomes a form of self-restraint and discipline. Although, one could argue that this presents more stress and does not directly address the discomfort as an effect of the problem, but this aids one to objectively observe the problem and slowly deal with it. Hence, this method addresses the main problem, rather than the effect, which is the negative feeling related to it.
In relationships say for example, if there is a need to end and escape away from it, one must genuinely engage oneself with friendship instead. Take time in doing so. However, this will not happen if the persons involved will not refrain themselves to talk about topics causing heated discussions. Better to remain still and peaceful, but not making a temporary or permanent detachment of the problem. One is not avoiding the problem or forgeting everything connected with it, instead one is just patient to find the best method to deal with it.
This article does not encourage people to escape. On the contrary, the best way to escape is to confront the problem but escape from the complexity of the situation. There is no escape in reality. By dealing with the situation, one learns and identifies the best solution to the problem, instead of thinking of forgeting the problem and the person involved in it.