To Be In Control
Change is inevitable in this world but that same change is everyone trying to get rid, especially when the change could lead to something less or possibly worse. This is because everyone desires to control the most important aspects of one's life. However, this is not just possible at all times, given the complexity of life situations an individual could be into.
It is may sound authoritative but there are several ways to stay in control in terms of emotions, unanticipated events or perhaps relationships. The focus of this blogpost is to identify the three potential measures to be in control and seeks to clarify the essence of maintining control in the examples to be discussed.
Be vigilant for signs that mark changes are occuring beyond expectations.
There will always be deviations in the path but one must be certain when a deviation is acceptable or not. From there, an individual knows the difference between anticipated and the unexpected. It is then crucial for one to be aware of the signs that an unexpected change could be developing. For example in a relationship, one seeking for control must be clear on what is worthy for control, what reasons justify such control and what signs makes change within the relationship worthy and justified.
Actively seek for alternatives that aims for the same goal.
Everyone seems to be in pursuit of happiness and success. We all want to know the way how to live a life of abundance and once we are on our way to it, we all want to initiate control measures to ensure the attainment of such goal. However, to be in control does not mean being myopic on the possibilities of other ways to reach a goal. One must be open to identify and weigh alternatives once situation becomes uncontrollable. This is especially true when it applies to life events and goals. This is to say, that one attempt fails, there will always be the opportunity to make another attempt. In that way, the probability of a positive outcome increases, while maintaining control of the situation.
When change is unfolding, be calm and look for opportunities to redirect the situation.
There is a saying that unexpected bad things do happen, no matter how we avoid it or implement measures to get rid of the worse change. This is quite relevant with a person's emotions. Suddenly from being happy, events influence us to be sad or angry. However, instead of nurturing the destructive feelings, one must stay calm and observe what the change is all about. Delay any reactions such that objectivity prevails. Let the bad things past then after the storm, breathe and think properly on which actions should be done first to redirect the situation from chaos to an anticipated one. Hence, just like a defeated soldier, one must lie low for awhile while waiting for the right time to fight a again in a battle, which is in this case the battle to be in control.
Lastly, it is noteworthy to remember that change is not entirely bad such that being in control at all times is a necessary skill that everyone needs to learn. A general rule of thumb perhaps is that so long as change is controllable, there is a need for control measures. But the change itself could not be prevented in any way, so there is a need to accept the consequences the change will bring forth. This is because a person must never in reality resist for change. A person must be versatile enough to go with the flow until where life itself leads to. However, for those whose primary objective is to lessen these changes, this blogpost would probably aid in one way or another.